Grow With ADHD

Embracing the mess. Celebrate the wins. Repeat.


Growing with Gratitude: My Complicated Relationship with ADHD

Writing this post has been a powerful journey of self-reflection. It has allowed me to delve into the intricate emotions surrounding my experience with ADHD. While it can be a struggle at times, I’ve come to realize that my brain’s unique wiring not only presents challenges but also opens doors to personal growth and empowerment.

I often find myself wishing that tasks didn’t feel so difficult. Task paralysis can be frustrating, and I realize that I am more productive under pressure. However, this is a chance to learn more about my motivation and how to harness it.

Today, I’m thrilled to be writing this post ahead of time, with no looming deadlines. I’ve learned that when motivation strikes, it’s crucial to seize that moment and make the most of it. Embracing my journey with ADHD is not just about overcoming challenges, but also about finding new ways to navigate them and grow.

When Motivation Hits, I’m Grateful

I’ve come to appreciate the bursts of motivation that life brings. My ADHD can often leave me frozen in anxious anticipation, waiting for pressure or panic to propel me into action. While that feeling of paralysis is challenging, it makes those moments of inspiration even more precious. When motivation arrives, I seize it and run with it. 

Superpower: Hyperfocus

One of my greatest strengths is my unwavering commitment once I decide to take on a task. My ability to hyperfocus is awe-inspiring. Whether I’m working with clients, diving deep into research, or exploring a creative vision that inspires me to transform my home with bold colors, I’m all in. 

This blog is a testament to that hyperfocus. My curiosity about ADHD, my insights on how it influences my life, and my dedication to supporting my clients and their families all stem from that powerful focus.

Medication, Therapy, and Finding Balance

Some days my thoughts feel like a pinball machine—three balls bouncing, lights flashing, noises everywhere.

Those days can be rough.

That’s when I’m most grateful for therapy and medication. Having access to both hasn’t always been easy. Some months, I have to skip therapy. But choosing to prioritize medication was life-changing—my brain quieted down, work became smoother, and I could move instead of freeze.

If you’re considering treatment, talk with your therapist, psychiatrist, or primary care provider. Make your list of pros and cons. It’s a deeply personal decision—and for me, I’m grateful I made it.

Learning Through Struggle

For most of my life, I didn’t realize that I had ADHD, which made my journey through school particularly challenging. I pushed myself relentlessly, fueled by a deep love for learning, all the way to graduate school before finally receiving my diagnosis.

There were countless times I missed recesses because I had forgotten my homework or misplaced permission slips. Now, I can truly understand the importance of organization; I rely on my calendars—monthly, weekly, and daily—to help me navigate my responsibilities. I highlight deadlines with the utmost urgency, often feeling like my life depends on it (and sometimes, it truly does).

I am so grateful to that one teacher who encouraged me to write due dates in a planner. That simple skill transformed my approach to academics and has been invaluable ever since. I empathize with anyone facing similar challenges; it can feel overwhelming, but there are ways to manage it and thrive.

My Love-Hate with Reading

My relationship with reading has evolved significantly over time. When I’m genuinely interested in a book, I can breeze through it in a day; however, when I’m not engaged, it can feel challenging—retaining information used to be quite tricky for me.

To overcome these challenges, I developed effective strategies to enhance my learning: highlighting key points, taking notes in the margins, creating outlines, and discussing my readings. This proactive approach has transformed my frustration into a sense of empowerment and growth, for which I am truly grateful.

The Procrastination–Perfectionism Trap

Oh, procrastination, my old buddy! I can really put things off like a champ—especially when that perfectionism rears its head. I used to think my session notes had to be absolutely perfect before I could even start writing them, but you know what? That’s just not true. They just need to get done! I’ve found that setting small, achievable goals and breaking tasks into manageable chunks helps me overcome procrastination. I’m still working on it, though. The urge to make everything the best it can be is part of who I am, but I’m learning not to let it take over my life.

I’m still working on it, though. The urge to make everything the best it can be is part of who I am, but I’m learning not to let it take over my life. 

And honestly, I’m pretty grateful for that drive, too!

Creativity and Connection

One of the greatest strengths of having ADHD is how it fuels my creativity. In school, I wrote papers from unique perspectives that others often overlooked. Now, I channel that boundless energy into my work, writing, and art. Creativity is not just a hobby for me, it’s a means of processing, expressing, and forging connections. It is the driving force behind my growth, helping me make sense of my experiences and share them with others. 

Creativity is my means of processing, expressing, and forging connections. It is the driving force behind my growth.

I am proud of what I’ve accomplished and deeply grateful for the profound lessons that growing with ADHD has taught me. It’s a journey of self-discovery, resilience, and growth that I wouldn’t trade for anything.

Final Thoughts

Life is complicated.